How To Find Your Emotional Balance In 5 Steps

Emotional balance is based on a calm atmosphere and is regulated by our internal harmony. It is not easy to achieve this balance, but we have several strategies at our disposal that help us to do so.

We all know that emotional stability is synonymous with high well-being and is closely linked to physical health. When we manage to balance our emotions, something amazing happens. We finally manage to be present in the present moment and we feel that nothing can destroy our self-esteem and that we have control over our own life.

If we think about it, everyday life offers us many surprises. Contemporary society is full of noise and forces us to move fast. By noise, we refer to the requirements that our environment imposes. We are told that we must excel as employees, as sons or daughters, as mothers or fathers, as brothers or sisters, as neighbors.

Pressure from outside can make us forget who we really are. It takes us away from the things that define and exhaust us. At some point, our emotional balance itself can be shaken.

We must try to have a quiet life, to find a balance between our needs and responsibilities. Emotional balance is a subtle need that should not be neglected. After all, it allows us to be happy and free. In today’s article we invite you to reflect on this topic.

The samurai’s philosophy helps you find your emotional balance

The subtitle above certainly caught your eye. At first glance, samurai and psychology are two terms that seem to have nothing to do with each other. But Bushido’s philosophy offers more inspiration than traditional coaching approaches. It is worth finding out more about this.

A very interesting book is Training the Samurai Mind: A Bushido Sourcebook (Mind Training samurai. A manual Bushido) by Thomas Cleary. In this book, the author presents the various ways in which samurai calmed their minds, so as to obtain the emotional balance necessary to defeat their opponents.

Bushido is a philosophy that presents strategies to promote personal development. Its aspects have attracted many spiritual mentors who promote self-help. Read on to discover five basic strategies that help you find your emotional balance.

1. You have to overcome your worries

Don’t let fear overwhelm you. In order to find your emotional balance, you need to become aware of your reality.

• It is very easy to overcome your worries. Seek to clearly perceive the world around you and control the situation in which you find yourself.
• As soon as you allow the worries to overwhelm you, they pull you down.

For example, imagine that you lost your job. For most people, this situation is terrible. It is very easy to lose control of our lives in such moments, to start saying to ourselves “I can’t get out of this mess” or “I stayed put forever”.

You have to be very careful when you feel assaulted by fears. Remember, you have the strength to defeat them. Only if you manage to do that will you be able to get rid of their harmful influence.

2. Accept adversity

True samurai are able to accept their own death. They understand that sooner or later they will have to sacrifice their lives to fulfill their duty. Self-sacrifice is an integral part of Bushido’s philosophy.

• We must not resort to such extremes, but we must still be able to face adversity. After all, life is not simple. We often lose certain things or people or we have to give them up voluntarily.
• By directly facing this negative side of life, we become more realistic and have a calmer mind. Thus, we approach the much-dreamed emotional balance.

3. Be more determined

We must learn to be active participants in the game of life, not just mere spectators. We cannot achieve emotional balance if we are not able to make decisions on our own.

Indecision affects our self-esteem and dignity and shakes our value system. Try to be more assertive, to play the role of the general in the battles that are going on in your mind, not just to be a simple soldier.

4. The mind is the most precious ally you have

A samurai’s most important ally is his mind. With a calm mind, we find our emotional balance and can defeat any enemy.

• Many factors threaten our emotional balance. Of these, stress, doubt and fear are the most important, preventing us from turning our attention where it is needed.

• In order to train our minds, we need to set aside some time for ourselves every day.
• Peace, meditation and personal care are essential. Set aside an hour a day for these activities. With their help, you calm your mind.

5. You must have clear values, principles and objectives

Try to get out of bed every morning with a clear project or goal in mind. Often even “I want and deserve to be happy” is enough. Just as samurai had their own code, we must have a set of personal values.

• If you have a specific goal and you know why you set it, no one and nothing will be able to stand in your way. You will know where you want to go and what your principles are. The emotional and psychological balance you will enjoy will be significant.

Do not hesitate to implement the tips presented in this article!